As you get older something that you learn and figure out is how to take better care of yourself. Imagine knowing yourself on a deeper, more gratifying, less judgmental level. Dating provides the platform to get to know someone, but how much is dating focused on getting to know someone else when you might feel that you really do not know yourself?
This question leads to the fun yet frightening exploration process of dating yourself. Dating yourself might include everything and anything from checking out a new restaurant, seeing a movie, play or live music, going to a spa, running or taking a dance or cooking class solo. It might also include writing a gratitude note to yourself, journaling, treating yourself to a massage or cooking yourself a delicious dinner with the recipe you have been wanting to try. The point is to confidently embark on the journey of doing what you love and what brings you happiness without waiting for anyone (especially a partner) to do it with you or for you.
In many ways it becomes a guide to to do this, here are a few healthy tips.
1. Dating yourself gets you out of your comfort zone and into healthy risk-taking if you tend to stay away from going out and doing things solo.
2. Dating yourself reinforces the idea that love and happiness start within, teaching you to look within for the support, encouragement and love that you naturally crave. This puts less pressure on potential partners to be responsible for your happiness and health.
3. Dating yourself increases your self-esteem and worthiness as you actively value and care for yourself. It shows you that you are deserving of great care and attention.
4. Dating yourself gives you the opportunity to get to know who you are in a deeper way, bringing you insight about what is really important to you. This knowledge is vital to partner selection, attraction and maintaining healthy relationships with others.
5. Dating yourself teaches you to enjoy alone time and how to be independent.
The more fear or discomfort you have about dating yourself, the more valuable this process will be. If you find yourself anxious or worrying about judgment from others for doing activities alone, look inward, notice your thoughts and make room for them without attachment.